Since my girlfriend gave me a makeover, I can’t stop cheating on her

DEAR DEIDRE: MY first-ever girlfriend encouraged me to revamp my wardrobe and get a trendy haircut - now I’m having sex with a different woman every weekend - but cheating on my girlfriend.

During my teens and 20s, most girls wouldn’t give me a second look. The few dates I had back then never went well.

My mates were always talking about which girls they’d pulled and their apparent experiences were things I could only ever dream of.

I met my girlfriend when she cut my hair. She’s a barber and she’s 28.

I’m 30 and I’m an IT engineer. I’ve had the same haircut since I was a boy but she suggested trying something new and took a real interest in me. I liked her from the start. 

When she persuaded me to try a skin fade and ditch the longer cut with a middle parting, it changed my look completely.

We got along so well, I asked her for a drink and we started dating. The sex was great. She showed me what to do and didn’t seem fazed by my inexperience.

She then got to work on my clothes, ditching my baggy jeans and old t-shirts and encouraged me to have more of a fitted look.

I go out with mates now and women are always talking to me. I’ve cheated on my girlfriend a few times with women looking for a quick thrill.

Last night, I was out and I winked at this girl who smiled back. We chatted and after realising there was a spark, we went back to her place for sex.

I do feel guilty though. My girlfriend doesn’t deserve this. 

Why do I cheat with the sort of girls who gave me a hard time years ago when my girlfriend is so lovely?

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DEIDRE SAYS: You’re making up for lost time but you stand to lose it all if you continue to do this.

You could be risking your sexual health and that of your girlfriend, never mind the thought that your girlfriend may find out.

Decide what you want. If mindless, no-strings sex is your style, then be fair and end things with your girlfriend so that you can do as you please.

But if settling down with somebody kind, loyal, and who has given you incredible confidence, is more you, then do the right thing and focus on her. 

My support pack called Can’t Be Faithful? Will help you think this through.