TOO QUICK
I can’t last in bed and I fear my new girlfriend will ditch me like my ex
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DEAR DEIDRE: I CAN’T last long enough in bed and I am scared my new girlfriend will leave me.
I am 24 and my girlfriend is 22. We have been together for four months and we get on so well, apart from this.
I lost my last girlfriend over this issue when she ran out of patience with me.
This problem started happening as soon as I began having sex.
It has dented my confidence so much that I avoided women and sex.
I met my current girlfriend at work. She is so lovely and I really wanted to have sex with her from the off.
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But the first time we did, I climaxed during foreplay. It was so embarrassing.
She just told me not to worry, but of course I am, big time.
I’m scared history will repeat itself and she will dump me.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t panic. Reaching orgasm too quickly – or premature ejaculation – is common, especially in young men.
It’s a psychological issue, rather than a physical one. It is often made worse by rushing sex.
The good news is you are in a relationship so you can work at slowing sex down and making it feel less hurried.
If you orgasm quickly, first of all talk about it, then show her how to arouse you again, this time it will take longer and your confidence will start to build.
Keep having regular sex and focus on slowing things down.
My support pack Want To Last Longer? explains self-help tactics.
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