I’ve ruined my university life after stripping off for a guy on webcam
DEAR DEIDRE: GOING to a new city to study engineering was a huge move but after hooking up with another student online, I’m really worried that I’ve blown it.
Everyone parties hard at my university and I’ve made some great friends already.
There is always a party somewhere and a couple of weeks ago I met this guy. He was so friendly and confident — I was completely bowled over.
I’m a 20-year-old woman and he’s the same age.
I’d had a few beers when he offered me some liquid ecstasy. He said it would make me enjoy the party even more.
I think because I was a little drunk already, I agreed.
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I felt on incredible form after that — in my head we were the most sexy people in the whole room.
I was disappointed as we went home separately to our different halls, and then elated when he started messaging me.
The chat was very sexual and he asked if I fancied playing a little online.
Carried away, I agreed and we stripped off in front of our cameras.
When I woke up and remembered what I’d done that I started to panic.
I hardly know this man and he’s clearly told his friends who start guffawing whenever they see me.
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Now I’m in a panic as I’ve heard he’s transferring on to my course, which is an absolute nightmare.
I’m even thinking about leaving university to avoid more humiliation.
DEIDRE SAYS: Please don’t give up a course and a life that you were enjoying because of one person.
We all do things we regret. You can either beat yourself up about this or decide to learn from the experience.
Liquid ecstasy, or GHB and GBL, can reduce people’s inhibitions which may, in part, explain why your behaviour was so out of character.
There are some very serious risks associated with the drug.
It is very easy to overdose on GHB or GBL, which can lead to unconsciousness, coma and death.
Taking drugs with someone you barely know, puts you in a very vulnerable position and because GHB and GBL can make people pass out easily, these drugs have been linked to rape and sexual assaults.
You’ve discovered you weren’t comfortable with your behaviour, so take that forward and introduce some red lines to keep yourself safe.
Sharing sexual images with anyone online is a risk as they could record or screen grab images.
You effectively have no control over that content.
In the meantime, hold your head up high.
Focus on strengthening your friendships and this man will soon start to fade into the background.