I got back with my cheating ex and now I’m worried everyone thinks I’m a mug

DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE I got back with my cheating ex-girlfriend, I haven’t stopped worrying about what people think of me.

Even now, I’m not fully convinced she’ll stay faithful, and I can’t help but think that my friends and family see me as a mug.

I’m 32, she’s 30, and we’ve been together for six years.

Things between us used to be amazing, but things shifted over the years, and our sex life took a hit.

I tried everything to reignite the spark between us, but it seemed the harder I tried, the further I pushed her away.

Suddenly she was staying out late on weeknights and becoming more and more preoccupied with her phone.

Deep down, I knew what was going on, but I chose to ignore it because the idea of losing her was too much.

Then one day she told me she was leaving me for another man she’d been seeing. My heart shattered.

For months I struggled to cope without her, until one day she came back begging for another chance.

While I knew how that would make me look, I couldn’t help but take her back.

Now, I can’t stop worrying about what everyone thinks of me. I know I’ve let her play me like a fiddle.

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DEIDRE SAYS: While it’s natural to worry about what other people think, ultimately the only person’s opinion that matters is your own.

Try to ask yourself if you feel secure in this relationship. It could be that the lack of trust in your girlfriend is making you feel insecure, and that’s the root of where your worries are coming from.

I’m sending you my support pack, Cheating - Can You Get Over It? to help you work through your unresolved feelings.

It’s important you decide if you can move on from her infidelities, because if you can’t, these feelings will continue to eat away at you.