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DEAR DEIDRE: IF I suggest having sex, my boyfriend thinks it’s a joke.

I am seven months pregnant but I feel really horny a lot of the time.

However he has completely backed off.

We are both in our late twenties, and have been together almost three years.

Both of us are really looking forward to the birth of our first baby but I am so frustrated at the lack of intimacy.

It has been two months since we last had sex and even then I knew he was reluctant.

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When I tell him I crave physical contact he thinks I am joking.

I have tried to talk to him so many times but he refuses to take anything I say onboard.

A few times I have caught him going on porn sites when he thinks I am not watching him. I feel like such a mug.

I don’t look like the women on these sites but I keep wondering if I put him off in some way.

DEIDRE SAYS: If this all started when you were pregnant, it could be that he finds it hard to see you as both a mother and a desirable woman.

As a society, we don’t really acknowledge that sex is completely normal when pregnant so a lot of people are nervous of it at this time.

He may also be frightened of damaging the baby so it may help to reassure him sex while pregnant is safe.

Try to get to the bottom of what is holding him back and see if he will open up.

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