FAMILY FEUD
An intense family feud is threatening to ruin my wedding day – help!
My mum says she won’t attend my big day if her sister goes
DEAR DEIDRE: A FAMILY feud is threatening to ruin my wedding.
My mum and aunt don’t speak to each other, and Mum says she won’t attend if her sister goes.
It’s overshadowing the lead-up to my big day.
I’m 28 and due to get married next month to my wonderful fiancé, 30.
But my mum, 58, and her sister, 60, fell out years ago over a financial matter and stopped speaking.
I’ve always got on well with my aunt and kept in touch with her privately.
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However, my mother found out and said she felt betrayed.
I want them both there, as I love them both.
But my mum says she can’t even be in the same room as her sister.
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She’s told me not to invite her or – as I’ve already sent the invitations – to uninvite her!
This feels so unfair and selfish.
My aunt has been good to me and I know she’d be hurt if she couldn’t celebrate my wedding with me.
How can I resolve this?
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DEIDRE SAYS: This is your special day, and it’s wrong for your mum to spoil it.
She’s behaving like a child.
You are entitled to a relationship with your aunt, even if they don’t get on.
Tell your mum that you hope she can support you on your big day by putting aside their differences, at least for your wedding.
They don’t have to be seated at the same table, or even speak – just be there for you.
My support pack Wedding Worries might help you.
If you want to talk to someone about your family fallout, contact Family Lives (familylives.org.uk).
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