My daughter’s boyfriend treats her really well but I can’t help but disapprove
DEAR DEIDRE: I DON'T approve of my daughter's boyfriend. I wish they could just be best friends.
My daughter is a stunningly attractive 24-year-old with a beautiful figure. She's been with her boyfriend for almost a year but me and her dad don't approve of him.
I'm 57. Years ago I told my daughter she shouldn’t date anyone who was not from the same ethnic background as ours. Her boyfriend is of African descent.
Although he is a nice young man, treats my daughter very well and has a handsome face, he is a bit overweight.
Every few days my daughter brings him up in conversation. I think she is trying to wear us down so we approve of him.
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We don't support this relationship and it is causing a deep divide.
The only thing we can agree on is that neither of us are changing our minds about this issue.
I want to know who is going to cave in first, or are we always going to disagree?
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DEIDRE SAYS: It is not a case of who will give in first. Your daughter is growing up and asserting her independence. Her boyfriend may not be the guy you would choose for her, but she is happy.
I’m not sure why you think his ethnic background matters. He treats your daughter well and is a good person - surely that is what matters.
The more you tell her not to see him, the more she is likely to rebel and dig her heels in.
You’ll regret causing a rift between you both.