I’ve lost all trust in my wife since she got blackout drunk at a birthday party
DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE lost all trust in my wife since she got blackout drunk at a friend’s birthday party.
She keeps insisting that nothing happened, but how can she know for sure if she barely remembers it?
I’m 43, she’s 40 and we’ve been married for ten years.
Last week I was away on a business trip when she attended an old work friend’s birthday party.
I knew from the text messages and phone calls that she’d had one too many, but it wasn’t until I saw a photo online of her getting cosy with another man that I realised how drunk she was.
She tried to assure me that it was all innocent and that while he had hit on her, she’d politely turned him down.
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Yet when I asked her if she remembered the whole night, she admitted that she had gaps in her memory. So now I'm struggling to take her at her word.
She’s never given me a reason not to trust her before, but I can’t shake this bad feeling in my gut.
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DEIDRE SAYS: We all get drunk and do silly things sometimes, but if she’s never shown any interest in cheating and insists nothing happened, you have no reason not to believe her.
The bigger issue here is her safety, rather than fidelity.
If you really care about her, think about how vulnerable she would have been.
Through some clear communication and open conversation I’m sure you can get through this.
I’m sending you my support pack Dealing With Jealousy to help.