WANT HER BACK
How can I win my wife back after finding out she’s moved on with married man?
We have been married for four years but over the last few months it felt like we were growing apart
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER a few months apart, I realised I wanted my wife back, only to discover she has already moved on with a married man at work. I’m gutted.
I am 39 and she is 34. We have been married for four years but over the last few months it felt like we were growing apart.
Having decided I needed space, I moved out but always said that maybe with time we could grow even closer.
I realised I wanted to try to sort things out but when I told my wife she admitted she had been having an affair with a guy at work who is 51.
They had become friendly before I left but my wife maintains they grew closer and it became physical once I had moved out.
He is married and has young children so their time together is limited.
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They are both into running, photography and cooking, things I just wasn’t into or was too stubborn to try.
I haven’t had the chance to show my wife how I want to improve things.
She claims she doesn’t know what she wants. How long do I wait for her? Or am I being a mug?
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DEIDRE SAYS: It does sound as though this other man has turned your wife’s head but there is a strong chance she will regret all this before the year is out.
He’s married with a young family and it is unlikely he will leave them for her.
Tell your wife you still love her but it’s unrealistic to think you will wait for ever for her to make up her mind. It could focus her thinking to set a deadline.
Can you say you would be up for looking into how you two could inject more fun into life together?
It sounds as if this is part of the problem.
My support pack Looking After Your Relationship can help.
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