NOT CLEAN
I am doubting future with my boyfriend as his cocaine habit has become so destructive
Do I give up and move on with my life?
DEAR DEIDRE: OVER the past few years my boyfriend’s cocaine habit has become so destructive that I am having major doubts about our future together.
He says it isn’t an addiction, even though he is spending over £150 per week on the drug.
I am worried he won’t change.
We are both 33 and have known one another since we were teenagers.
We got engaged recently and have been living with my mum for a few years so we can save for a deposit. Our first home is all going through.
At first, he hid his problem well, but once I spotted his mood swings – sneaking off to the toilet and the way he burns through cash – it became obvious.
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He is having therapy but I am not convinced he is committed to getting clean.
I have taken over his finances but now he tells me he owes money to a drug dealer.
I’ve done everything I can to help him. Do I give up and move on with my life?
DEIDRE SAYS: If you love him you may well be in for a difficult time. He’s an addict and has been for years.
That doesn’t mean he can’t change, but it will take effort.
Set a time limit on this relationship, or you could waste years hoping.
If the drugs mean more to him than your relationship, it may be best to walk away.
My support pack Drug Worries gives sources of help.
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