We were patching things up – then my husband’s lover announced she was pregnant

DEAR DEIDRE: I DIDN'T think things could get worse when I found out my husband was cheating on me, but then his lover announced she was pregnant with his child. 

Now the life we built together is in ruins and I have no clue where to go from here.

I’m 42, my husband is 46 and we’ve been married for 15 years. We have a seven-year-old daughter and a twelve-year-old son together.

Throughout our marriage, he’d never given me a reason not to trust him. So, when he started working late and going on more frequent business trips, I didn’t bat an eyelid.

Then one day I received a phone call from one of my best friends after she’d seen him in a pub with another woman. 

I didn’t want to believe it but when I confronted him about it he went silent. I knew instantly from the look in his eyes that it was true.

Eventually, he admitted that he had fallen for a new woman at the office and things had spiralled out of control. 

After hours of begging for my forgiveness, I decided to give him a second chance.

We spent months working on our relationship and were finally getting back on track, until one day we got a knock on the door. 

It was her, and she was visibly pregnant. My heart sank because I knew exactly what this meant.

Now I don’t know what to do. I love my husband dearly, but the idea of him having a child with this woman is tearing me apart. 

I feel so lost. 

DEIDRE SAYS: Your husband has hurt and betrayed you, and now his actions will alter your life forever.

Working through your new reality will take careful consideration.