Husband flirts with every other woman but puts me down at any opportunity
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER years of being manipulated and gaslit, I’ve reached the end of my tether with my husband.
Every day he breaks me down just a bit more and I’m not sure how much longer I’ll be able to take it.
I’m 52, my husband is 56 and we’ve been married for 25 years. We have three grown-up children together.
Our relationship used to be amazing but over the years he’s grown grumpy and things between us have soured.
Now our marriage is built on humiliation and hurt, and it’s hard to remember a time when we were actually happy.
These days he constantly picks at me. Whether it’s about the way I look, the things I do or say, he’s always shaming me.
Every time we go out it feels like he’s purposely flirting and entertaining other women to make me jealous, and whenever I have a reaction he turns it around on me and makes me feel guilty.
I can’t understand why he’s constantly trying to hurt me.
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DEIDRE SAYS: There is no excuse for your husband’s behaviour. Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that can have long-lasting results.
If you want things to improve you both need to have an open and honest discussion. Find a moment to explain to him how you’ve been feeling and tell him that something needs to change.
My support pack called Standing Up For Yourself may help you to get the message across.
If he’s unwilling, it might be time to consider walking away.
