I can’t leave my violent boyfriend because my boss is his dad
DEAR DEIDRE: Over the last few months, my boyfriend has become violent but I’m too afraid to leave him because his dad is my boss.
I’m 25 and he’s 28 and we’ve been together for two years.
We had always had a good relationship but like any couple, we had our issues. Over the last year, we had been arguing more and everything shifted one day when he completely snapped.
We were having a disagreement about him staying out too late at night when his anger got the better of him and he hit me.
He had never been violent before but after that, everything changed. Now I don’t even recognise him and every day I walk on eggshells worried about when he’ll blow up next.
I’ve completely fallen out of love with him and want nothing more than to be as far away from him as possible.
Yet I’m forced to stay because we live together and I can’t afford to lose my job.
All I want is to be happy and move on with my life but I feel so trapped.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You are feeling very isolated, which is exactly what controlling partners aim to do.
Do talk to your family and friends and lean on them for support because as much as your boyfriend may want you to believe, you are not alone.
If you have a HR department at work, you can speak to them confidentially on how to proceed and please contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline (refuge.org.uk, 0808 2000 247) for more detailed advice.
