I’m devoted to my ailing and ungrateful ex
DEAR DEIDRE: I thought I was doing the right thing by helping my ex with his shopping and chores, even though we split a year ago.
We were together for a decade and he had various health issues. I’m a woman of 62 and my former partner is 73.
Over the last two years his health has deteriorated considerably and he’s started to take it out on me.
He has accused me of all sorts, including flirting with a paramedic when I had to call them out.
He has even started to blame me for his worsening condition, telling me that I’ve made him ill.
These days he rarely goes out, so I help him when I can. But he keeps messaging me saying I’m selfish and cold-hearted.
This situation is making me so depressed and I’m struggling to get out of bed in the morning.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry that your ex, who you have continued to support, repays your kindness with such nasty and abusive comments.
Of course you are not to blame for his worsening health. He sounds frustrated but it is completely unacceptable that he takes that out on you.
It is important to make your own health and wellbeing a priority.
Have a chat with your doctor if you continue to be depressed.
He is being abusive and if he doesn’t stop, for your own health you do need to think about withdrawing from him.
My support pack Standing Up For Yourself will help.
