I have extremely high sex drive but I’m still a virgin – should I take the plunge and pop my cherry?
DEAR DEIDRE: ARE my hormones out of control?
I’m a woman of 21 and I’m single.
I have an extremely high sex drive, yet I am still a virgin.
I use sex toys every day whenever I’m not working to try and keep my powerful urges in check, but nothing seems to work.
As I’m still a virgin, I wonder if actually having sex with someone is the way to satisfy my libido.
I always planned to wait until I met my special someone and lose it in a romantic setting.
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Now I don’t care how I lose my virginity – I just want this feeling to go away.
Sometimes I just can’t think of anything else.
Friends of mine have told me they’d love to have no-strings attached sex with me, so I have plenty of options.
My friends have had lots of one-night stands, so why can’t I?
I’m the only virgin in my friendship group, and it would be nice to join in the sex talk with my girlfriends without feeling like the odd one out.
What should I do? Should I take the plunge and pop my cherry?
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DEIDRE SAYS: There is nothing to worry about – your feelings are entirely normal.
Hormone levels are extremely high during your teens and early twenties. It’s not unusual to feel turned on a lot of the time.
As you have always wanted to have sex with someone special to you, it would be worth waiting for that person.
Doing this with someone who loves and cares for you, rather than someone who wants sex simply for their own pleasure, will be far more meaningful.
You can masturbate as many times as you want and stay a virgin.
Try using different sex toys, they have varying functions that can help you reach an orgasm.
Different toys will give you different forms of pleasure. There will be one that will satisfy your sexual drive – you just need to find it.
I would also recommend channelling your energy into something physical, such as going to the gym and working out.
This will help you to release some of your energy into something that isn’t related to sex.