I’m so lonely, it’s making me ill
DEAR DEIDRE: Although I’m only in my late thirties, I’m so lonely it is making me ill.
I have always found it difficult to make friends – and those I do have don’t make any effort.
I’m a 38-year-old woman and live with my partner, who is 40.
But he goes out to work early in the morning and comes home late at night. He often works away, too.
I work from home, so I rarely see or speak to anyone during the day.
I’ve tried making friends locally. I will go to a cafe and try to chat, for instance, but people don’t seem interested.
As for my old friends, if I don’t contact them, they never get in touch.
It feels like nobody cares about me.
I’m so down that I have no motivation to do anything but mess around online or watch TV, which I know doesn’t help.
I feel low and tired and have no energy. The future looks so bleak.
Please help.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It is not only old people who suffer from loneliness.
Feeling like this is not healthy and it is good that you are asking for help before you really make yourself ill.
Do talk to your partner and see if he can spend more time with you.
Also think about getting a job where you are based in an environment with other people.
My support packs Feeling Lonely and Widening Your Social Scene should help.
If you think you are getting depressed, make an appointment with your GP.
