Will my performance anxiety end my relationship?
DEAR DEIDRE: I’m struggling so much when it comes to sex and worried my girl will leave me.
I met my partner when she applied for a job to help me out in my cafe. She’s lovely and we are both 51.
We worked together for about a year before I found the courage to ask her on a proper date. We now live together and it’s great but when it comes to sex, my erections are so weak.
I’ve had a recent check-up with my doctor and he says I’m in good shape for my age.
I’ve been alone for 10 years so I don’t know whether I’m out of practice.
I can get turned on quickly enough and at the start, my erections are really good and hard but after a moment or two I begin to lose it.
I know I have performance anxiety but how can I improve my sex life?
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DEIDRE SAYS: A 10 year lapse without sex can affect you physically.
There can be other factors too such as pornography addiction, being overweight, alcohol or smoking which may apply to you.
Performance anxiety affects a lot of men who have one bedroom disaster, then they worry and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You can improve things if you focus more on your partner and making her feel good and don’t even attempt intercourse until you have rediscovered your confidence.
My support pack called Solving Erection Problems will help you to get your mojo back.
