My workplace is full of catty women
DEAR DEIDRE: My workplace is full of catty women and it’s making my life a misery.
I’m not being bullied but nobody asks me to join them for lunch or after work drinks, and I’m not part of their WhatsApp group.
I’m 32 and have been working in a large hair and beauty salon for two years.
The other women constantly moan, bitch and slag each other off. Then they’ll be best mates again the following day.
That’s not how I operate, and it upsets me.
I feel like I have nothing in common with them. They obsess about reality TV and which celebrities they fancy whereas I’m into the comedy scene.
They even look down on my packed lunches - I like to have salads and fruit - while they go out for takeaway burgers.
The only girl I like is leaving soon because she’s moving away from the area.
I feel so ostracised, bored and lonely that I’ve started to dread coming into work every day.
What should I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: We spend so much of our lives at work, it’s no wonder this is getting you down.
While it doesn’t sound like these women will ever become your best friends, it’s worth trying to make an effort with them.
Sometimes people gossip as a way to relieve boredom. But there’s nothing to stop you making conversation about other things.
It sounds like it’s time to start thinking about looking for a new job.
It would help to grow your social life outside work. See my support packs on Feeling Lonely and Widening your Social Scene.
