My wife’s kink could lead to me crossdressing
DEAR DEIDRE: My wife’s naughty idea for spicing up our sex life has got me in a quandary.
She wants me to wear her fishnet tights when we make love, but I’m worried that will turn me into a crossdresser.
We’ve been married for eight years. I’m 40 and she’s 38. Sex has always been an important part of our relationship and we always do it two or three times a week.
But lately, our lovemaking has grown a bit stale, as we’ve been together so long. We both agreed we needed to reinvigorate it. A few nights ago, we lay in bed discussing our fantasies.
To my surprise, my wife said: “I’ve always had a thing for men in tights. Will you wear mine during sex?”
The idea gave me a thrill and I agreed to, but now I’ve started feeling anxious.
What if I enjoy wearing them?
Does the fact I want to do this mean I’m a crossdresser?
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DEIDRE SAYS: There’s nothing wrong with being a crossdresser, and it’s a lot more common than you’d think.
But being turned on by the idea of wearing your wife’s tights does not mean you should label yourself as one.
It sounds more like a fetish. You’re attracted to this idea because it’s naughty and novel, not because you feel – or have ever felt – a strong desire to dress in women’s clothes.
Try not to feel anxious. Just enjoy experimenting. See my support packs on Crossdressing and on Fetishes for more information.
