My boss showed me a good time, and it changed everything
DEAR DEIDRE: My hot boss gave me the best sex on a one-night stand and now I’m thinking about calling off my engagement.
I haven’t fallen for him - I’m not that daft. He flirts with every female at work and I don’t think I could ever trust him.
Besides, he’s planning to propose to his girlfriend in a couple of weeks on a romantic weekend.
I am 27, and my boss is 38.
He and I hooked up after a colleague’s 40th birthday party. He was very attentive all night and made sure we left at the same time.
We shared a taxi and he invited me into his flat.
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It was the most amazing night of sex ever.
Now I’m thinking about whether my fiancé is the right guy for me.
This is about sexual compatibility — my boss has done me a favour and underlined just how lame my sex life is with my fiancé.
Undoubtedly, my fiancé, who is 32, is a lovely guy, very kind and thoughtful. The one thing which makes me doubt him is he is very small, sexually, compared to other men I have slept with.
He doesn’t have a complex about it, and I haven’t said anything which might dent his confidence. But there is no foreplay when we have sex. It is all over within minutes.
He continues to make plans for our wedding but I can’t get excited about it. I worry I’ll stray again even though I know he would be a great husband.
I love him but I also love good sex and, to be honest, he bores me in the bedroom.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your lovely fiancé deserves better than this. The size of his penis really doesn’t matter as women don’t orgasm through penetration alone.
It’s time to take that leap and tell him what works for you sexually. Good sex is about good communication.
How can things improve unless you tell your fiancé you want more foreplay and show him what you need.
Talking honestly doesn’t need to be hurtful.
My support pack on Thrilling A Woman In Bed could help him too.
Your boss might be a great lover but he is a cheat. If you realise your fiancé is not right for you, then it would be fairer to break up with him than betray him again.
Tell your boss you wish him well and be civil when your paths cross at work.