I got back with boozer ex and fear I made mistake getting pregnant

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner and I rekindled things after we split up last summer – and now I’m pregnant.

I am excited about becoming a mum again, but can’t fight the feeling that I’ve made a huge mistake.

We are both 30 and were together for seven years.

The main reason we broke up was I have a problem with the amount he drinks.

He drinks every day of the week and won’t even tone it down when he’s with our daughter.

She is five and has ADHD. She is quite a handful but is also the sweetest child.

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I hoped that after our separation he would realise he needed to cut down his drinking in order to be a better boyfriend and dad.

He did say all the right things. At the same time I was feeling vulnerable after my cousin, who I’m really close to, died.

He timed it just right, gave me a little sympathy and I stupidly lapped it up and took him back.

But within that first week he was back to drinking heavily.

I soon realised I’d made a huge mistake but then discovered I was pregnant.

My father was absent most of my life – and I’ve always looked after our own family.

However, my partner doesn’t match my efforts.

He is unemployed, makes no effort to look after his physical appearance and there is no passion in our sex life.

Instead, he spends his time drinking until he can’t look after himself at all.

He often comes home in a verbally abusive mood. My daughter is the only reason I haven’t walked away again.

I worry that breaking up with him twice will cause her some long-lasting emotional damage.

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