Why can I no longer rise to the occasion in the bedroom?
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M embarrassed to say that I’m 52 and failing to rise to the occasion in the bedroom.
I’m happily married to my wife who is 50. She’s understanding and tells me not to worry but I can’t help but despair about our relationship.
We’ve always had a great sex life and since our kids left home, we’ve been even more adventurous. My wife doesn’t mind using sex toys and sometimes she’ll dress up for me.
A month ago, we went to bed and I was prepared for sex but when my wife came out of the bathroom in her silky gown, I couldn’t get it up.
We’ve tried to have it about six times since and each time, it’s the same story. I end up satisfying my wife in other ways and she’ll use her hands on me, but it takes ages.
What’s happening? I can’t bear the thought of no more intercourse in our happy marriage.
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DEIDRE SAYS: If this is a new thing for you, then do get checked out by your GP to ensure there isn't something else going on.
If you are getting early morning erections then it is likely that this is a psychological issue rather than something physical.
Sometimes men can find that they have one failure in the bedroom and then it happens again and again - that’s performance anxiety.
If you find that your issue is more psychological, my support pack called Solving Erection Problems will show you how to sort this out.