My girlfriend’s lie is threatening to unravel our whole relationship
DEAR DEIDRE: My girlfriend lied about her age, and now I don’t know if I can trust her again.
She says she only did it because she didn’t think I’d be interested otherwise, but I think it means she’s a dishonest person.
I’m 48 and she is 52. We met on a dating site six months ago, and she told me she was 46.
I only found out she was lying because we just booked a holiday to the Canary Islands.
When I asked for her passport details, she turned grey, and then admitted the truth.
I don’t care that she’s a little older than she said.
It’s the lying to my face for six whole months I can’t deal with.
She thinks it’s just a little white lie and that she did it because she was rejected in the past.
But hard as I try, I can’t get past it.
It’s ruined our otherwise perfect relationship.
I keep wondering what else she’s told me about her life that isn’t true.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your girlfriend lied because she was scared you would think she was too old for you.
She didn’t set out to deceive you.
But once a lie is out there, it’s hard to take it back.
Talk to her and explain how important honesty is to you.
Trust can be rebuilt, if you both want that.
My support pack, Looking After Your Relationship, should help.
