I can’t live my life in peace away from my ex
DEAR DEIDRE: Having finally broken up with my nasty ex, I thought I was free of his abuse.
But he’s still harassing me, and I fear I’ll never be able to live my life in peace.
I’m 42 and he’s 44.
When we first met, two years ago, I thought he was wonderful. He was so thoughtful and loving and complimentary.
Stupidly, I lent him a lot of money - almost two thousand pounds.
I soon realised he was love bombing me. Once he’d moved in, he started to insult me, to put me down and to cheat.
If I got upset he’d turn the charm on again, and I’d fall for it.
Eventually, I got him out by changing the locks. But he won’t leave me alone.
He messages me in the middle of the night, puts pictures of us on his social media and even sends random food deliveries.
He says if we meet he’ll give me the money back in instalments. I don’t ever want to see him again.
What can I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You did the right thing by ending the relationship.
Unfortunately, it’s not unusual for abusive men to continue their behaviour after being dumped.
Even using their debts to keep a hold over abused partners.
Block him everywhere. If he continues to harass you, contact the police - it’s a crime.
Keep a record of everything he does for evidence.
My support pack, Abusive Partner, contains details of organisations that can help you.
