I love my boyfriend but feel guilty about leaving my ex
DEAR DEIDRE: Although I’m happy with my boyfriend, I still feel guilty about the way things ended with my ex.
I broke his heart and moved on quickly.
But it’s been months and I don’t understand why I still feel so sad.
I’m 24 and my ex is 25. My new boyfriend is 27.
When my ex and I got together, our relationship was amazing. But we lived far apart and it was hard to see each other.
We used to argue about it, and I felt he wasn’t making enough effort.
Although we loved each other, it all became stressful, not fun.
Eventually, after four years, I ended the relationship – by phone, which I regret.
He was devastated. I tried to stay friends but he said it was too upsetting.
I met my current boyfriend soon after and I know that hurt him too. I don’t want my ex back but feel so bad about the way I broke up with him.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You felt your relationship wasn’t working and ended it. That was the right thing to do.
Perhaps it would have been kinder to do it in person, but that might just have prolonged the pain.
It sounds like you met your new boyfriend before you’d dealt with your feelings.
But if things are otherwise good, it would be a shame to let this spoil your relationship.
My support pack on Feeling Guilty should help you move on.
