My gorgeous girlfriend says I make her feel like a dirty old woman
DEAR DEIDRE: My gorgeous new girlfriend has finished with me because she says being with me makes her feel like a dirty old woman.
We have the best sex and get on like a house on fire, but she insists I should accept her decision and put my efforts into finding somebody younger than her.
Granted she is nearly twice my age but I’ve never thought of her as old.
She’s a fantastic person. I’m a single guy and an only child. I’m 31.
My parents live in Spain during the winter so I keep an eye on their home for them.
When their new neighbour knocked to introduce herself we hit it off straight away.
So when she invited me round for a cuppa, I felt very comfortable.
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I learned she was 55, just divorced, and new to the area.
By the end of our first cup of tea I’d offered to introduce her to the best pubs around.
I knew then that I wanted her. We met at my favourite pub the following week and after a couple of drinks I’d built up enough courage to ask her back to mine.
The sex was wonderful.
She’s so experienced compared with the 20-somethings I’ve been with before.
Over the following months we’d meet regularly for a meal, or a walk and we’d always end up at hers or mine where we would enjoy the best sex I’ve ever had.
I thought we had something good but she told me last week she’s too old for me.
She insists I shouldn’t be tied down with her. I’ve not given our age-gap a thought. I think I’m falling for her.
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DEIDRE SAYS: There’s no reason why this can’t work but your age is a consideration. She is at a very different life stage to you.
You didn’t set out to find an older woman, but now that you have, you need to think about whether you’d like children. If so, she will not be the right partner for you.
She is recently divorced so was perhaps looking for a fling rather than a relationship.
Do talk to her and ask her what has prompted her to think your age is an issue – or was she simply not looking for such commitment?
My support pack Age-Gaps – Do They Matter? will help you decide if you should talk to her again. Good luck.