Should I share my sex life bucket list with recovering wife?
MY wife and I have always had a very active sex life but she’s just getting over cervical cancer so everything has stopped. When are we safe to try again?
We are an older couple of 73 and 71 and we’ve always enjoyed a good relationship.
I love her to bits and was devastated when she was diagnosed with cancer but she’s doing really well and her treatment ended three months ago.
It made me think about our mortality. I’ve written a bucket list of where I’d like to visit next and also the sort of sex I’d like to have before I’m too old.
I’ve always longed to have a threesome, for instance, with my wife and another woman. Should I let her see my plan?
I don’t want to push her if she’s not up to it but the thought of no sex ever again fills me with dread.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sure it does and the good news is, there is no reason not to resume an active sex life.
However, many people who’ve been treated for cervical cancer can feel differently about sex.
Do have a look at Jo’s Cervical Cancer Trust (jostrust.org.uk, 0808 802 8000) for more information.
Your wife may not be ready to expand her sexual horizons further with a threesome but my support pack, Sex Play Therapy, explains simple exercises including kissing and caressing which may help her to feel she’s ready for intimacy again.
