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SEXUALITY STRESS

Erotic dreams are making me question my sexuality

DEAR DEIDRE: A SERIES of erotic dreams has freaked me out and is making me question my sexuality.

It’s brought back memories of my teens, when I liked to wrestle with boys because it sexually stimulated me.

I’m a 21-year-old guy, and single. I’ve always had girlfriends and I’ve never had sex with another man.

But over the past few weeks, I’ve had several very sexy dreams, which have disturbed me.

They’re always about other men – strangers – often naked or wearing few clothes. In the dreams, these men kiss or touch me, and they make me orgasm for real.

As an adolescent, I used to initiate play fights with other boys because the physical stimulation would lead me to orgasm.

I don’t have any physical attraction to any men I have met. I always fancy girls.

So why am I having these erotic dreams about guys? Could I be gay?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Dreams shouldn’t be taken literally.

The type you describe, “wet dreams” when you ejaculate,  are often caused by hormones and are most common during puberty, but can also occur later. 

They’re perfectly normal and don’t mean you’re gay or bisexual.  
If you want to talk to someone about this, contact  (0808 808 4994) for under-25s.

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