Is it time to throw in the towel on my unhealthy friendship?
DEAR DEIDRE: Whenever I try to get together with my friend, he always has an excuse.
I feel like throwing in the towel on our friendship.
We are in our mid-forties and live a few minutes’ walk from one another.
I have a partner and two children, whereas he is single and lives alone. We have known each other since primary school.
He texts me every day. We exchange banter and if we bump into each other we chat.
We used to socialise once or twice a month and go to the gym together. We haven’t fallen out and we still text. But trying to see him face to face is nigh on impossible.
It hurts to know he goes out with other people on the nights he tells me he can’t see me because he has work commitments.
It’s been like this for almost two years. I feel like he only wants to text me now and I’m going to have to accept a text friendship.
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DEIDRE SAYS: When friendships change or seem to fizzle out, it can stir up a range of emotions. But it is unlikely to be anything you have done wrong.
You have made the effort to keep your friendship going, but the reality is friendships come and go.
Even the best of friends may not stay that way for ever. And that can hurt.
Put your energy and focus into meeting new people so you are not so reliant on him.