My mate ghosted me ahead of our holiday together and I don’t know what to do
DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE just paid the last instalment for my holiday with a friend, but she’s not talking to me.
I don’t know what I’ve done. I’m a woman of 47 and I met my friend at baby classes when our children were little.
Since then, I’ve separated from my husband. She’s always been a single mum. She’s 50 now and I’m 51.
We lost touch when she moved but when we met by chance in town we rekindled our friendship.
We’ve been out for coffee and round to one another’s houses.
This holiday has been booked for months. We are supposed to be doing a mini-cruise around Scotland and I was looking forward to it.
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She won’t pick up my calls and when I’ve WhatsApped her, she’s said she doesn’t want to talk.
I don’t know what I’ve done.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: You might not have done anything. Perhaps she can’t afford the holiday or has changed her mind and doesn’t know how to tell you.
You deserve some explanation though.
Go round to her house with a bunch of flowers and ask her if everything is OK.
Tell her that you’re so pleased she’s back in your life and you’re looking forward to your holiday but if you’ve upset her in some way, you need to know what you’ve done otherwise you can’t put things right.
My support pack on Assertiveness will help you to get the message across.
