My girlfriend keeps teasing me about hooking up with another guy
DEAR DEIDRE: Ever since we began dating, my girlfriend has been saying she wants to hook up with a guy she knows.
She says it’s just a fantasy, and nothing will ever happen between them. But I can’t believe how insensitive and hurtful she’s being.
I’m 24 and she’s 21. We’ve been together for a year.
She told me she has a crush on this guy - who works at a local cafe - early on in our relationship.
She always buys her coffee there, so she can chat to him. Sometimes, she even tries to get me to go to the cafe with her.
I refuse. I don’t want to sit there while she makes puppy dog eyes at someone else.
She doesn’t understand why I’m upset. To her, it’s just like having a crush on an unattainable celebrity.
She says he’s much older - in his early 30s - and he has a girlfriend, so I shouldn’t be jealous.
If she had the chance, I’m sure she would sleep with him.
And she’s making me feel like I’m not good enough for her.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your girlfriend’s behaviour is selfish and thoughtless. She sounds immature.
On the plus side, if she were planning to cheat she probably wouldn’t be broadcasting it to you.
But what she’s doing is hurtful and unnecessary.
Be honest with her about how this is making you feel.
It’s fine for her to have a crush or fantasy, but she should keep it to herself.
If she won’t listen, then you might be wise to end the relationship.
