I’m getting close to two very different women so which one do I choose?
DEAR DEIDRE: I’m close to two different women and don’t know which one to choose.
The first is my best friend, who has been in my life for ten years, and the second is a woman I talk to online who lives in the Czech Republic.
I am 32. My best friend and I know each other inside out. She is 30.
I always thought we would end up together and even though we haven’t even kissed yet, until recently I thought she felt the same.
However, I sense a slight cooling from her since I lost my job and had to take a lower-paid role working for a charity.
After I moved to a more modest flat, she now never seems as keen to stay for the meals I cook.
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With more time on my hands, I started to talk to a woman online.
She is 33 and lives in Prague. We get on really well and seem to share a lot of interests.
She has invited me to her country and I am wondering whether to go or not.
Even though my best friend and I aren’t together, I would feel disloyal going to Prague to meet this new woman.
Should I stay loyal to my friend even though she might never want a relationship?
DEIDRE SAYS: You clearly share a strong bond with your best friend but the only way to know for certain whether she sees a romantic future with you is to ask her.
If she doesn’t feel the same, at least you will know where you stand.
If your best friend wants to keep things platonic, you can then put your efforts into pursuing a romance in Prague.
Please be aware you may be projecting your own insecurities onto your best friend by assuming she isn’t as interested in you because you are earning less.
