How do I persuade my son’s Dad to see his child?
DEAR DEIDRE: My son’s father does not want to be involved with him at all and I’m so sad for my little boy.
I’m a single mum of a two-year-old and my ex has gone back to his wife. I’m 27 and he’s 33. His wife is 35 and they have a daughter together.
I met my son’s dad in my local when they had an open mic night. He’s a singer and he busks in town.
We started chatting over a drink and really hit it off.
He came back to my flat and we had sex and saw each other a few times after that.
But once he knew I was pregnant, he didn’t want to know me. He said he would pay for a termination but I couldn’t go through with it and now my little boy is the light of my life.
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I didn’t know that the guy was married when I slept with him.
He has admitted since that they have a difficult relationship and were separated at the time we were together, but he is now back with her.
I called him last week to see whether we would see him over Christmas.
Our son keeps asking for his daddy. My ex said “No. I’m spending it with my family.” How can I make him see that his son needs him also?
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s not going to be easy.
He clearly didn’t expect you to get pregnant and he doesn’t seem to want the responsibility of another child but it’s not as easy as that.
Even if he won’t be there for your son emotionally, he should support him financially.
You can find out more through gov.uk/child-maintenance-service (0800 171 2345).
Reach out to your ex again and see whether he would go to mediation with you to put contact on a formal footing.
You can get in touch with National Family Mediation (nfm.org.uk, 0300 4000 636).
