Do I risk my job or take the plunge with my boss?
DEAR DEIDRE: My colleague suggested we all go out for his birthday drinks and my boss grabbed my knee and asked: “Are you going?”
I did go and we had a great night but I now can’t get my boss’s flirty comment out of my head.
We work for an estate agent. I’m a guy of 32 and our manager is 35 and she’s single.
From the moment I was interviewed, I felt there was some sexual chemistry between us.
She’s been giving me training and sits very close to me while she takes me through the software on the screen.
Her perfume is intoxicating and her body is amazing.
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I think she’s so hot but our staff handbook says that intercompany relationships are not allowed so I’ve not taken things further.
She makes it obvious she likes me, though. I’d love to take her out for dinner some time.
I’m starting to struggle to concentrate on work. I want to keep my job but my feelings are getting deeper. Do I ignore it or tell her how I feel?
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: Some work romances are inevitable, no matter what the rule book says.
But you have to be aware that if you go there, you and your boss could lose your jobs.
So before you make any moves, you really need to find out where you stand with her and also think carefully about your future.
The first step is to ask her for a coffee outside of work and talk about your feelings, then see if she’d like to go for a relaxed date where you can find out where she stands.
If you both decide you’d like to make a go of things, consider whether you would be better off handing in your notice, or applying for a new job.
But whatever you do, don’t be tempted to fall into a secret work relationship without properly considering the potential repercussions.
