How do I speak to my ex without my girlfriend thinking I’m cheating?
DEAR DEIDRE: Last week my next-door neighbour’s husband died and his wife has asked me to pass on the news to my ex-girlfriend.
My ex’s family were close to my neighbours. My next-door neighbour is lovely. She’s 79 and lost touch with my ex’s family.
I want to help but the problem is that I have a new girlfriend. She’s 28 and I’m 27.
She’s the jealous type. She was cheated on by her previous boyfriend so she’s paranoid about my past and who I’ve been out with.
She made me delete all of my ex’s photographs from my phone.
If I contact my ex about my neighbour, my girlfriend may wrongly assume there is something going on. What should I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You have to be honest with her and tell her that this family would want to know about your neighbour passing away – and this is what you are going to do.
If you are firm about what you are doing, she may be more accepting.
You could ask your ex to call you when your girlfriend is with you. She may not react in the way you imagine if you spell it out to her.
My support pack Dealing With Jealousy may help you with your relationship.
If she gets upset because you have to make contact with your ex in these exceptional circumstances then perhaps you’ll have to accept that she’s not the right person for you.
