My friend’s girlfriend is telling me her unborn baby is mine
DEAR DEIDRE: While he was working away, my friend asked me to look after his girlfriend – and now she’s carrying my baby.
My mate’s girlfriend is lovely. She lives with her mum and sister. They have had issues with dodgy loan sharks and her mum has health issues so she’s been really worried.
My friend is 34 and was offered an amazing contract to install broadband systems at the other end of the country.
It’s far from home but he knew more money would help his girlfriend, who is 31.
But he was concerned about men calling round to try to get cash while he was away.
So he asked me to check in on her regularly in case she’d had any unwelcome visitors.
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I’m a labourer and I’m 35.
Before that I’d always got on with her, but didn’t really know her.
True to my word, I would check in on her at least once a week.
Then one afternoon his girlfriend phoned me because her mother had fallen and she couldn’t lift her. I was there within ten minutes to help.
His girlfriend was so grateful but cried. She was feeling the stress.
I hugged her and held her and then we kissed.
Things suddenly got more passionate. She grabbed my hand and took me through to her bedroom. We had the most wonderful sex.
It felt good but I felt bad for my friend. He had trusted me to help him out and I’d betrayed him.
His girlfriend has called me, asking me to go over, but I won’t go further than the front step.
Now she has told me she’s expecting, and that it’s my kid. What should I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: The decision of whether to go ahead with the pregnancy has to stay with her. If they have financial worries, she may decide the time isn’t right for her but it’s her call.
You weren’t looking for this but a child deserves two loving parents and you’ll have to support the child financially at the very least.
Are you prepared to play your part?
You can only do a DNA test to prove paternity once the baby is born but you can find more information through Cellmark (cellmark.co.uk, 0800 036 2522) which provides confidential, conclusive, court-approved DNA tests.
If she continues with the pregnancy then the truth will no doubt emerge and you’ll have to prepare to lose a friend.
My Unplanned Pregnancy support pack explains where to find urgent help.
