How do I tell my boyfriend I’ve been faking orgasms for months?
DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend can’t tell the difference between me faking it and genuinely orgasming.
I don’t think I’m very convincing but as long as I utter a couple of moans, he thinks I am climaxing and enjoying sex, but nothing could be further from the truth.
You can also send a private message on the Facebook page.
DEIDRE SAYS: You’ve got yourself into a trap. If you fake it, how can your boyfriend to know things have changed?
Have a chat with him away from the bedroom so he knows he needs to change technique – perhaps reintroducing sex toy play – to pleasure you.
Show him what works well for you and don’t be tempted to pretend or you’ll be back to square one.
It can be really overwhelming talking about changes in desire but unless you take that leap of faith, your responses will remain numbed.
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