I’m 60 and still trying to find my way in life
DEAR DEIDRE: My 60th birthday is looming, but it fills me with nothing but despair. Life has not turned out the way I would have hoped.
I have achieved nothing and feel bitter and jealous of everyone I know who has succeeded.
It’s hard to stomach the sight of those who I was at school with doing so well, with their high-powered jobs and lovely families.
I worked hard at college to get qualifications, but never performed well at interviews.
My working life has consisted of pushing supermarket trolleys, cleaning toilets and delivering local newspapers.
Imagine how bad I felt about myself when I attended a school reunion. I was among people who are now company bosses or CEOs.
My birthday is just a milestone of glorious failure. I feel like such a loser. I’m truly unhappy about being 60 as I’ve achieved nothing.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You’re not a failure. Milestone birthdays often cause us to pause, take stock of our lives and how things are going.
Please don’t compare yourself to others - you never know what is really going on in other people’s lives and some of the most seemingly successful people are crippled with depression, anxiety and self-loathing.
Don’t measure yourself based on the achievements of others and instead start thinking about your own goals.
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