My girlfriend moans constantly and it’s sucked the joy out of our relationship
DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend moans to me constantly to the point where there’s very little joy in our relationship any more.
We’ve been together for two years. At first it was great and we couldn’t get enough of one another.
Now I know her and I’ve met her dysfunctional family, I know how difficult it is for her. Her dad is an alcoholic and her mother has been sectioned twice.
She feels responsible for her sister, who’s 15. I love my job but my happiness after a great day disappears when she offloads all her worries on to me.
She’s a part-time hairdresser. I’m 22 and she’s 20.
We hardly make time for a kiss and a cuddle, never mind sex. She saps the fun out of everything at the moment.
I don’t know whether to end it with her. I feel like her counsellor.
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DEIDRE SAYS: She’s feeling responsible for the wellbeing of her family and, as somebody close to her, you are getting the brunt of her woes.
Tell her you are worried about her and suggest she talks to a counsellor, someone who will be able to give more constructive help.