My boyfriend is fixated on women with big boobs – while I’m flat chested…
DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend says it is normal for guys to look online for girls with big breasts, but as a flat-chested woman I feel very insulted.
I saw some images on his phone when I was looking for a photograph from my sister’s recent wedding.
I was horrified that he’d have pictures of other women on his phone.
There were dozens downloaded from pornographic websites. Big boobs were the common denominator.
I confronted him and his only defence was that “everyone does it”.
I told him I felt hurt and undermined, especially as the bridesmaid dress I wore for my sister’s wedding was very padded around the front.
I felt a million dollars at the time but now I know my boyfriend really prefers larger ladies. I’m so upset.
My boyfriend is 29. I’m 25.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I never receive emails from readers wishing that their partner had bigger breasts, just as I don’t get messages from people wishing their man was bigger in the trouser department.
No matter what he feels about these images, you are his chosen partner.
It’s time for you both to discuss where your cheating red lines lie and if you can’t agree, then please consider whether he is the right man for you.
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