I moved to UK with girlfriend, I love it here but girlfriend wants to go home
DEAR DEIDRE: NEXT month my girlfriend returns home and I’m worried it will spell the end of our relationship.
We are both 23 and South African and have been together for three years.
We moved to Manchester last year because we wanted to experience a bit of British culture and we’re both massive City fans.
We’ve had an amazing time but recently she started to talk about missing home and her family in particular.
Now she’s heading home but I’m staying because my career is really taking off.
I’m not ready to leave but I also don’t want to lose her. What can I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You both need to have an honest conversation around your expectations.
And put some clear limits on how long you are prepared to wait for one another.
If you can, put milestones in place for both of you to look forward to and aim for.
Could you, for example, go home to visit her in Easter and could she come to see you in the summer?
Without these targets, it’s quite likely your relationship will drift.