I am married and keep fantasising about sex with other men
DEAR DEIDRE: I CAN’T stop thinking about what sex would be like with other men even though I am married.
I am 26 and I’ve only ever had sex with one man, my husband, who is 27.
We have been together since I was 18 and I’m plagued by the thoughts I am missing out sexually.
There is no way I would ever want to leave him, but I have been thinking about this more lately.
It’s got to a point where I’m fantasising about other men the whole time.
I feel so disloyal so how do I get over this?
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I can’t talk to my husband about it because it will hurt him, and I will never forgive myself.
Is this normal?
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: Ask yourself if this is a deep and unfulfilled need, or is it curiosity and a fear of missing out fed by social media and online porn?
Being in a committed relationship means considering what the other person wants as much as you.
Is experiencing sex with other men so crucial that it’s worth throwing away your relationship?
Dating lots of people can lead to lots of heartbreaks. If generally you are good together, count yourself lucky rather than feel you’ve missed out.
If you’re after new and exciting sexual experiences, why not suggest experimenting with your husband?.
My support pack 50 Ways To Add Fun To Your Sex Life can provide inspiration.