My old friend’s getting married but I’m not invited – what have I done?
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my old mate announced his wedding date, I expected an invitation – but I’ve been snubbed.
He isn’t the first friend who hasn’t invited me to his big day. I’m starting to feel rejected and paranoid.
I’m 32 and have had the same group of mates since university.
We’ve always hung out together, gone to the pub and for lads’ weekends away.
One by one, they’ve been starting to settle down with their girlfriends.
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I’m still single and I have a job that takes me away a lot, so I haven’t spent as much time with them lately as in the past. But everyone else in the group is going to the wedding.
I am so hurt. I can’t think of anything I’ve done wrong.
I want to ask why I’ve been left out, but I’m worried I’ll say something I regret.
DEIDRE SAYS: It does seem unfair that you’re the only one of your group of friends not to be invited.
However, weddings are extraordinarily expensive, and it may be that your friends are having to prune their guest lists to the bare bones.
Perhaps they feel you’ve drifted away from their circle, or that you won’t be able to come because of work.
If you’re worried about asking, you could write a considered message to one of your group who you get on best with and ask if they know why you’ve not been invited.
My support pack, Rows With Friends, may be helpful to read.
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