Since I started the menopause, my sex life has completely died
DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE I started the menopause, my sex life has completely died.
No matter how hard I try, I have no desire to be near my husband and sometimes I even wonder if I love him.
He’s 60, I’m 53 and we’ve been married for 30 years.
I started experiencing symptoms around five years ago. At the time it was mainly hot flushes, aches and pains, but gradually I became less and less interested in sex.
Even when we attempted it for the sake of my husband I found it so painful that we stopped altogether.
I know he has tried his best to be understanding, but if I’m honest it’s taken a huge toll on our marriage.
Our sexual chemistry used to be incredible, but now things are stale.
We argue all the time and sometimes I feel like I may as well be married to a friend.
Will things ever improve?
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DEIDRE SAYS: A loss of libido is a common symptom for women during perimenopause and affects as many as 50 per cent of women.
It can often leave you feeling down and guilty, but you must remember that it’s not your fault.
If you aren’t already taking it, you may be able to get hormone replacement therapy to help bring your libido back. It would be best for you to talk to your GP, who can advise on treatments.
You can also get help at .
