My best friend disappeared on me when I needed her most
DEAR DEIDRE: FOR years, I have been there for my best friend when she needed me.
I thought she would do the same for me, but recently it has not been the case.
We grew up together. She’s had some mental health problems since her teens and sometimes would dip out of using her phone for a week or two. I totally understood why.
Now we are both 25 and I still love her like a sister. But I’ve been through a difficult time and I’m disappointed she hasn’t been there for me.
I’ve lost my job and been dumped by my boyfriend. I texted her numerous times, with no response. I’ve called her to ask her why she doesn’t try with our friendship any more.
She says catching up once a month for a coffee is enough. But it isn’t for me.
I don’t know what I have done to offend her but I’ve lost a bit of her now.
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DEIDRE SAYS: She is moving on and doesn’t want to be reminded of the times when she was less happy.
Sadly, you are connected by association to those times when her mental health wasn’t so good.
Enjoy it when you do meet for a coffee, but accept that some friendships don’t stay so strong for ever.
Focus on finding new friends so you worry less.
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