I can’t stop thinking about new girlfriend and I am worried I will mess it up
DEAR DEIDRE: BECAUSE I am so insecure in my new relationship, I worry it may stop me from taking things further.
I am a 28-year-old man and my girlfriend is 25.
We met on a dating app a couple of months ago.
We get on so well and I really like everything about her.
We have met a few times and so far it is really working out on every level, intellectually and sexually.
Is it normal to start thinking about that person every moment of the day and wonder whether things will last?
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It is distracting me from doing so many things.
I keep thinking about the good experiences we have been through together so far.
I am starting to get behind at work and lose sleep about any men in her life she may be attracted to.
I feel my insecurities may stop our relationship from progressing and I am not sure how to proceed.
I want to secure a potentially happy future together without getting hurt.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Having a strong physical and emotional attraction to someone is healthy and normal.
Romantic love can feel overwhelming, exhilarating and scary.
It also needs trust and vulnerability. The only threat to this is your own insecurities.
This fear of being hurt, especially if it has happened before, is a self-defence mechanism telling us it might happen again.
I’m sending you my support pack on Dealing With Jealousy to explain more.
