My partner’s life revolves around his children and his mum and I have had enough
DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner’s children stay with us every weekend and I don’t like it.
We should be having the time of our lives, after I had my kids when I was young.
I am 43, he is 47 and we have been together for almost six years.
The children are ten and eight. They now live with my partner’s parents after his ex, their mum, couldn’t cope with looking after them.
His mother tells him what to do, when he can have holidays and even nights out.
He always has to fit in with her and I have had enough. I had my children young, and they have left home.
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I feel we should be out enjoying ourselves, but we have his children sleeping over every weekend.
I do all the cooking, plan activities for them, help with their homework.
I am thinking of ending our relationship as I am not happy. It’s been like this for years.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Perhaps he feels guilty his marriage broke up and the children live with his mum, and is trying to make up for it.
His kids come as a package with him and are going to be a part of his life for ever.
But it does sound as though his mum is calling all the shots.
It is about compromise and communication, so talk to your partner about what would be a fair balance.
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