I fell for workplace lover after night of sex but now she has gone back to her husband
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER one passionate night of forbidden sex, my married lover left her husband.
She said I’d shown her how happy she could be.
At first I was absolutely stunned, then allowed myself to feel excited. But now I’m totally gutted.
I am 36 and single, and this woman is 35.
She is amazing, funny, clever and oozes sex appeal.
As soon as she joined our team at work, I felt bewitched, despite her being married.
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Our company is very sociable so no one batted an eyelid when we started having lunch together.
After getting to know each other, we discovered we both loved stand- up comedy.
One night she invited me to a local show, saying her husband was away and she would rather spend the night with me anyway.
We had a great time and at the end of the evening she asked me to take her home. I didn’t miss a heartbeat.
Within 30 minutes we were back in my house, where I took her upstairs and we had incredible sex.
After we had made love, she told me how miserable she was with her husband and that she regretted marrying him.
I couldn’t believe it when, later on that week at work, she whispered in my ear that she’d left him.
I felt thrilled and utterly terrified at the same time.
But by the end of the day I was starting to feel really excited about having her in my life.
The next week her contract at work ended. We had arranged to meet at a bar to plan our future.
But on the day, she cancelled, saying her head was a mess.
Now she has messaged me to say she had moved back in and they are trying marriage counselling.
I don’t know whether to fight for her or walk away.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You always knew this woman was married.
Even though she may not have deliberately set out to hurt, she has acted selfishly without thinking about how this would affect you.
You have been badly let down but don’t take this as a rejection.
She sounds mixed up and you have had a lucky escape.
Distract yourself with a busy social life and give yourself the chance to meet someone who will want to share a proper relationship, someone who is free to be with you.
My Support pack Mend Your Broken Heart will help you to move on.
