My wife is texting an old friend from university and I fear she’s having an affair
DEAR DEIDRE: I FEAR my wife is having an affair. She keeps texting an old friend from uni and never leaves her phone for a moment.
We have been together for 15 years. She’s 39 and I’m 41. I worship the ground she walks on.
I’ve been off work with stress for a while and I know I haven’t been easy to live with.
This friend, who shared a house with her at college, recently reached out to her because his mother has cancer and my wife is a cancer care nurse.
Since they’ve reconnected, she talks to him constantly.
Now she tells me she’s going to stay with her sister, who lives in the same city where my wife studied. This guy settled there after graduating.
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When I asked her about it, she accused me of being jealous and insecure.
Am I right to be concerned?
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DEIDRE SAYS: It is difficult to say for sure. She may be having private conversations and being a good friend to him and yes, it does seem intense, but she’s given no reason for you to suspect she’s cheating.
As you don’t trust her, ask yourself if these feelings could stem from a time when you were cheated on in a previous relationship, or perhaps somebody close to you was cheated on.
If your relationship is as strong as it can possibly be, then she’ll have no reason to look for love elsewhere.
My Relationship MOT support pack will ensure you get things back on track.
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