My dad and my abusive boyfriend despise each other – who do I turn to

DEAR DEIDRE: MY dad reported my boyfriend to the police for being abusive.

Now they despise each other, and my partner has banned my parents from coming to our home.

I’m 23 and he is 28.

Last month, we had a massive fight because he was jealous.

He threw an ornament at me, which caught me on the cheek, leaving me with a black eye.

I ran out crying, and he wouldn’t let me back in the flat, so I went to stay with my parents.

When my dad saw my black eye, he called the police. I didn’t press charges and my boyfriend said he was sorry.

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The problem is, he now hates my dad and doesn’t want me to see or speak to him or Mum.

My dad hates my boyfriend too. He thinks he’s bad for me.
I feel torn because I love them both.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your dad rang the police because he was worried about you – with good reason.

Your boyfriend sounds abusive and controlling – your relationship isn’t healthy.

Please read my Addictive Love support pack.

Your boyfriend may only have been violent once – so far – but he’s overly jealous and he’s now trying to stop you from seeing your parents.

Please think about walking away. Abusive men are rarely only violent once.

Next time you could be badly hurt. Don’t cut off contact with your parents – they are the ones who love, support and protect you.

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